Just a Simple Thought
Today is an age very different than that of our parents. When my mother was my age the world was evolving. Although women had equal rights, there was a definite bias towards them that limited their potential. My mother did not make much money. In fact, she worked multiple jobs to support my sister and I. My father, well that is a story for another day. Needless to say, when my mother was raising two children by herself, the odds were stacked against her.
Thankfully it is very different now. I like to think I am a modern mom. I have a two year old daughter who is my heart and soul, and a wonderful fiancé who I am lucky to have. I am also a work horse. I log long hours at the office, and bring home a sizeable paycheck to support my family. At this moment, I am the sole income to my family, the figurative breadwinner if you will. My fiancé is not currently working so he is at home minding our daughter until he finds work. Even if he goes back to work his resume is not exactly high earning potential, and as such his work only affords him a little over minimum wage; which around here is a little over 2 gallons of milk per hour.
Being the supporter in our little trio of a family has raised a lot of brows; most of which from our families who do not take kindly to his position as caretaker. Although I understand that our norm is different than others, I can’t help but wonder why is it received with such negativity. Why would women view men staying at home to raise the children as something negative? Was it not women who fought for equality? Why is there a double standard? If women are equal to men, and able to do the same work, shouldn’t the opposite be true as well? What is wrong with a man being at home? I suppose from a man’s prospective it is very different, as many of them still have that notion that they should be the providers. I do not believe this is a correct notion, nor do I believe it is an incorrect one. To each their own I say.
No matter which way it works, my family is being provided for. Is that not that the main purpose? I will admit if he were to find a good job I would be ecstatic, but not because I think he should be the main provider. I simply think an extra income would be nice. However, if he ends up not finding a job, I cannot help but think the option to be a stay at home dad is a good one.
So I thought to pose the question to you, readers of word press. Why does my fiancé receive so much hostility at the admission that he is at home while I am at work? What are your thoughts? Why do you think society views stay at home moms as acceptable, but not stay at home dads?